Imagine you are at the dinner table with family members that you haven’t seen for a long time. Conversation is a bit stilted or superficial “Pass the sprouts please” “Did you see Eastenders last night?”
I bet you’d get some surprises. I bet you’d look at some family members for a fresh angle. I bet the atmosphere in the room would change to a more positive, engaged, intimate one where people started feeling better about themselves and therefore better about each other.
Try it and let me know how you get on.
We did this at the Christmas lunch with my Mastermind group earlier this month and it is not an easy question to answer. But it is worth the struggle. You have to go back in your mind and focus on all the positive things, all the achievements you’ve made.
The downside is if it has been a bad year you might not feel there is anything to be proud of. Well one thing you can be proud of – you got through a bad year and you’re on the brink of a new one!
Or you may not feel like you have anything to be proud of. That happened with a couple of my Mastermind group so they had the whole rest of the group piling in “What do you mean ‘nothing’?! “You did that amazing video” or “you made that amazing speech” or “you raised a ton of money for charity” People around you will supply you with the ideas if you can’t come up with them yourself and that makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside!
Every time I start work with a new client, on the enrolment form right at the top is “Name 3 things you are proud of in your life or work” . So many people struggle with answering that at first. A common answer is “my children” or “starting my own business” but I get amazing insights into someone’s sporting achievements or big achievements in a previous career. And once people have acknowledged their achievements they do feel better about themselves and able to take on more challenges and are more coachable.
Why do I love this question? It reminds people of when they were at their best. It reminds them of what they have already achieved so could easily achieve again, it helps them believe in themselves and what they are capable of on a regular basis. Are you starting to love it too?
Remembering yourself at your best on a regular basis is my recommended New Year’s resolution – this time next year you’ll have even MORE to be proud of.
Very best wishes for 2018